I saw this idea on my friend’s blog and I thought it was a great idea! So here is our story in Q&A format.
1. How long have you and your significant other been together?
Tyler and I started dating towards the end of my freshman year in college. Which means we have been together for about five and half years.
2. How did you meet? (what's your "love" story?)
3. If married, how long have you been married?
Tyler and I have been married two and half years. And I have loved every second of it! I don't mean to get cheesy on you (although this is a Valentines post) but marriage for us gets better every day. I am one lucky lady!
4. If you are married, where did you get married at? Big or small wedding?
I would say we had a medium sized wedding. It was perfect for us. We had our wedding in Mississippi so all of our friends could be a part of our special day and we were so blessed that so many of our family members were willing to make the trip to share in our special day. We got married at a church not far from the college where we met and it was beautiful (center aisle included!) and then had our reception at an art museum which made for the perfect environment. I wouldn't have changed a thing about that special day!
5. Do you have any nicknames that you call one another? Share!
We totally do! What's a relationship without nicknames? However I must be honest and tell you that Tyler's nicknames for me are always a spin off of a nickname I have for him. Nicknames obviously aren't his specialty. But it always makes me laugh when I hear how he has ever so slightly adjusted the nickname to fit me. Our nicknames are definitely for at home use only, although every once in a while one slips out here and there.
6. Name 3 things you love most about your honey.
Wow, just three things? How to narrow it down... I think one of the most valuable things about Tyler is his positive attitude. He reminds me of Psalms 1:1: " He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither..." At times when life seems to throw us a curve ball, he is not moved and can see the goodness of the Lord. I also love how wonderful Tyler is with people. I tend to be the more shy between the two of us and I admire the way he gets to know people and can immediately make them feel comfortable. His way with people reminds me of Proverbs 17:22 "A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up bones." Tyler definitely never falls into the "dries up bones category". I love to watch the way his humor and personality give him a great platform to invest in the lives of others. And lastly, since we are doing just three, I am so grateful for the importance Tyler puts on providing for us as a family. I firmly believe that the way he provides for us is his faith in action. He is such a hard worker and there is not a day that goes by that I don't value his commitment and discernment.
7. Tell us how he proposed!
Tyler loves the unexpected. I loved the planned. So when he told me he was taking me out to a really nice restaurant for my birthday and that I should dress up, I thought it was obvious. Of course, he was going to propose that night! And of course, I was completely wrong. But the great thing about Tyler is that he knew me well enough to know that I was sitting there the whole night thinking he was going to propose. So of course, he did everything possible to play into the situation. But a few weeks after that dinner date, Tyler asked me to come over to his apartment to study. This of course was nothing out of the normal and we often studied together. Since I had a huge test the next day it seemed like a good idea. He came and picked me up at the dorm and when we arrived to his apartment I saw one of his roommates sprint from the building. I didn't think much of it other than, "He must be late!". As we walked up the steps and opened the door to his apartment the whole apartment was filled with candles and a single string lead me through the apartment. As I followed the string, there were notes and pictures of special memories that Tyler and I had shared along the years starting with the day we first met until I reached a point where the string divided. I had come to a crossroads and the rest of the story hinged on the answer to one very important question. Tyler popped down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I of course, said "YES!".
8. Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy for v-day, or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals?
Ummm... No. Ha! And I am not that kind of girl either. I love to be loved all year long and so a little something extra on Valentines Day is nice, but I would never trade that for the love and care that Tyler gives me each and every day. He is always so thoughtful!
9. Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl, or pop a movie in and relax on the couch?
I guess I am a pop a in movie in and relax kinda girl? Because I am not really a dinner on the beach kind of girl.... but is there a go out to a nice dinner, inside option- because that's probably my real answer. But between those two options, it would be the movie and relax. We do that a lot around here after a busy week at work.
10. Tell us one thing you'd like to do with your significant other one day. If you could do anything? Go anywhere?
Tyler and I love to travel! And it is my hope that we get to visit some of the places we have always wanted to go to: New York, California, and if we are really dreaming here...Italy! Oh and another trip to the Bahamas; we love that place. I think we love to travel because it gives us time to just be with each other while see new places and trying new foods (yes! food is important around here!).
11. Tell us what you plan on doing on this Valentine's Day.
I love to give sweet, little gifts during Valentines. So for the past week I have given Tyler a little something just to remind him that he is loved. And as for the actually Valentines Day, Tyler has a plan to make dinner for me at home and we plan on enjoying time talking, laughing, and loving. But other than that, nothing out of the ordinary around here.
12. Are you asking for anything this Valentine's day?
Nope, not a thing! To me, Valentines is a holiday about giving :)
13. Give us one piece of advice about keeping a relationship strong and full of love.
I think in a lot of ways Cystic Fibrosis makes our relationship different. But I guess you could say my advice would be mindset. Tyler and I know that we are not promised another day together. I think because of this we live more fully. Sure we have our days, what marriage doesn't? But living like the person you love is a gift from the Lord, that you are not promised to have forever, makes arguments seem insignificant, mistakes more easily forgiven, and love seem so much more important. It is my goal each day, in my relationship with Tyler, to make him feel like the most valuable thing to me on this earth and he does the same for me.
14. Show us a picture of what love means to you.